Normally quite proficient at healing itself, the human body is extremely adept at knowing exactly what to do. It has plenty of self-healing mechanisms in place, most of which occur without our conscious awareness. Healing generally take place quite naturally.
There are times, however, when our minds and ideas can interfere with the process of healing, and if you find yourself in this situation, or suspect you might be, I hope you will find some tips within this article to be helpful.
We have long known of the brain’s capacity to heal the body, we have all heard the stories about people who healed themselves without the use of modern medicine and, conversely, we all know or have heard of people whose brains seem to be their own worst enemies. Somewhere in between these two extremes is where most of us dwell.
There comes a time in just about everyone’s life when an illness, a frailty, a condition of some sort hits us and just doesn’t seem to want to go away. People who would normally heal up quickly and go on about their business instead end up struggling with it, being sicker far longer than expected, or suffer recurrences of the illness. It is the subject of much research, many books, and much consternation.
I don’t claim to have all the answers, far from it. I can but offer some gentle guidance, some ideas about why healing doesn’t happen, and some things to help get the healing process underway. Over the years I have observed quite a lot about healing – and not healing. I’ve made it my life’s work, read countless books and research about healing, experienced healing – and not healing – within my own body and those of friends, family members and my coaching clients. There is much to know about healing and this article will scarcely scratch the surface but it might get you pointed in the right direction.
A Bad Attitude Can Stop Healing
Of course, this isn’t always the case, there are many aspects of not healing that do not involve a bad attitude. But when all of those things have been accounted for and worked with and healing still has not occurred, please consider this.
There are certain attitudes and thoughts that can stop the healing process. I would invite you to begin to notice your thoughts and feelings. Are you worrying incessantly over something? Holding a grudge? Mad at someone you can’t forgive? Do you find yourself complaining a lot? Do you actually believe that you can heal, or are you expecting the doctors, some new wonder drug, or someone else to heal you? Perhaps you have an idea that you are not worthy of healing. All of this can create an inner resistance which can be interfering with your healing process.
Recognizing that resistance can be difficult, it requires you to sit still and ponder. It can be a painful process. You must pay close attention to your thoughts and feelings, and some of those thoughts can be so automatic you might not even realize you are thinking them until you start to pay attention and poke around amongst them.
In the book “Power vs Force” by Dr David R Hawkins we are told “In every studied case of recovery from hopeless and untreatable disease, there has been a major shift in consciousness, so that the attractor patterns that resulted in the pathologic process no longer dominated.” What he means by attractor patterns is well-described in the law of attraction – that which you put out you also attract back to yourself. Dr Hawkins makes the point that every studied case of recovery from hopeless and untreatable disease seemed to require a major shift in consciousness.
Wayne Dyer also discusses attractor patterns in his book “The Power of Intention”. Dr Dyer says that we are told that our Source (whether you consider that to be God, Krishna, the Universe – whatever your beliefs are) “is never focused on what’s wrong, what’s missing, or what’s sickly. True healing takes you back to the Source. Anything short of this connection is a temporary fix. When you clean up the connecting link to your Source, attractor patterns of energy are drawn to you. If you don’t believe this is possible, then you’ve created resistance to your intention to heal and be healed. If you believe that it is possible, but not for you, then you have more resistance. If you believe you’re being punished by the absence of health, that’s also resistance.”
The Quality Of Your Thoughts Play A Role In Your Ability To Heal
Your inner thoughts about your ability to heal – and many other aspects of your life – play a huge role in your physical health, and therefore your mental health. We are a body/mind integration. Obviously I am not minimizing the role that a healthy balanced diet, exercise, supplementation, etc plays in your ability to heal yourself. But your mind probably has the biggest role to play and is the aspect most often neglected.
People will go scurrying off in search of some new miracle supplement, superfood, or exercise craze ten times faster than they will sit down and analyze their thoughts and emotional health. It’s not easy and we tend to shy away from the thing that makes us uncomfortable. But I encourage you to do just that because it will probably make the biggest difference with your health and ability to heal.
Here are my best tips gathered over 25 years of personal research in healing.
1. Eradicate Fear. You must let go of any fear that permeates your mind. When you are ill, fear is often promulgated by the health care industry (think of those oncologists telling us what percentage of chance we can expect of having a recurrence if their advice is not followed to the letter). Our Source has no fear within it, only love, peace and perfection. A mind held by too much fear tells us that something is amiss within that mind, and it is creating resistance to healing. Examine any fear, look it straight in the eyes and acknowledge it, thank it for the lesson, and then let it go. There are many therapies like Emotional Freedom Technique and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy that will help you do this. Go and see a qualified health professional like a psychiatrist if you need to. Talk to your close friends about the fear. See your pastor, do whatever you need to do, but tackle that fear.
2. Deal With Negative Emotions. In the above paragraph, I used the word “fear”. But other negative states of mind can stop healing as well, such as grief, anger, being in a state of unforgiveness toward someone who has hurt you, any feeling or emotion that feels negative to you. Tackle them, one at a time. Get rid of them, banish them from your life. They are holding you back, sucking your life’s energy, keeping you from being whole, healthy and happy. Do whatever you need to do, get the assistance you need, so that you can let these feelings go and begin to heal.
3. Heal Negative Thoughts and Words. Pay close attention to your thoughts and words. If you catch yourself feeling negative, thinking negative things and saying negative things, stop yourself and counter them with something more positive. If you are asked by a friend to share or discuss something about which you can only feel negative, simply thank them for their concern, and tell them you are no longer talking about that, you are having a break from it and change the subject. Highly recommended because what you pay attention to and talk about is given energy and grows, so let that be something good. I love this quote by Will.I.Am “I’m ignoring my problems and paying attention to my dreams.” Smart man. Healing your inner thoughts and words is well worth the effort because in so doing, you are removing resistance and doubt, and you are letting the cells of your body hear another story. Have faith that healing can take place. Expect it, intend it. Know it like you have known nothing else in your life that you CAN AND ARE HEALING. The cells of your body hear your thoughts 24 hours a day, 7 days a week and do their bidding. Send only healing messages, put together a healing affirmation or two, memorize the words and repeat them to yourself a thousand times per day if you need to. Know that miracles are always possible. Become a magnet for miracles!
4. Ask For Help. Ask for assistance from your Source with your healing process. Hand your burden over to your Source, ask for guidance, ask for the right people to show up in your life to assist you on your healing path. One of my favorite quotations from Wayne Dyer is this: “Put your mind and body in a peaceful place and allow the Universe to work in the best way it knows how.” Then get out of the way and allow it to happen, without fear, without resistance.
5. Raise Your Vibration, or your positive energy. I know that sounds weird to some but we are energy bodies, made up of energy vibrating at different frequencies. In illness our vibration is quite low, so it is imperative to learn what things you can do to increase it. I share some really good tips on the best ways to raise your vibration in my article Offering Hope To Those With Metastatic Cancers – Raise Your Vibration.
I have a feeling that this article will be one to which I am continually adding new information, so pay it a visit once in awhile. In the meantime, if I can assist you, please contact me.
Power vs Force by Dr David R Hawkins
Healers on Healing, edited by Richard Carlson and Benjamin Shield
The Power of Intention by Dr Wayne W Dyer
Why People Don’t Heal And How They Can by Carolyn Myss
One last quote: “Something we were withholding made us weak Until we found it was ourselves.” – Robert Frost
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One of the things that I personally detest is doctors who tell their patients with metastatic cancers that they should “just go home and get their affairs in order”. These doctors have no idea how devastating such a statement can be. My heart cries for the people who hear these words and are given no hope at all, hence today’s post.
DON’T GIVE UP!
If you have been diagnosed with metastatic cancer (cancer that has progressed beyond the part of the body where it originated), there are many things you can do to help yourself heal and it is my honor to share them with you today.
Raise Your Vibration
Quantum physics has taught us much about health and our bodies. We are vibrational beings – I’m sure you have heard this before, but if not, please accept this idea into your heart and mind. It is important that you understand this concept, because if you truly get it, you will understand that matter, energy, and thought is fundamentally vibrational in nature – each interfaces with the other in a subtle, but powerful way.
The next most important concept I want to convey to you is that if you have cancer, your vibration is very low. Scientists can now tell us about the rate of vibration and functioning of major organs and systems within us. They tell us that when we have the flu, the rate of vibration lowers from the optimum high rate. When we have pneumonia, our vibration is even lower, and when we have cancer the rate of vibration is very low. Science is not yet able to tell us what causes the vibrations of our organs and systems to decrease but they can now at least provide these readings and confirm that what I’m saying is true. Many alternative practitioners have been saying for some time that the cause for lower vibrations is a combination of parasites, worms, viruses, fungi, metal and atomic poisons, toxic chemicals, repressed emotions, and many other factors.
High vibrations mean vibrant health. Vibration is energy and energy is alive and intelligent. To live long and healthy you need to keep your body vibrating at high levels. Here are 8 tips to help you raise your vibration, each as important as one another:
8 Tips to Raise Your Vibration
Set your intention – make a decision to LIVE. This may seem obvious when you have stage IV cancer, but I am finding that many have not done this very simple thing. The first step in the journey to a long and vibrant life is to make a conscious decision that you want to life a life that is healthy, fulfilled, happy and long, and that this is really what you want.
Meditate or pray daily – one of the best ways to raise your vibration quickly is through meditation or prayer. Meditation in particular takes you to that place where you no longer think or have thoughts, where your mind is silent and your body is deeply relaxed – as the mind relaxes so the body relaxes, allowing your energy, or vibration, to move unimpeded through your body. Don’t know how to meditate? I can help you. I know people who have brought themselves back from stage IV cancer mainly through the use of meditation. Did you know that you can also use visualization to “imagine” your cancer cells away? Don’t laugh – there’s plenty of research backing this.
Use essential oils daily – essential oils help raise your vibration very quickly. Essential oils have a beautiful vibrational frequency – a fellow by the name of Bruce Tainio built a machine that could measure essential oils in Hertzian waves (MHz). He said that a healthy human body vibrates in the 62-68 MHz range. Here are some of the highest vibrational essential oils:
Rose (Rosa damascene)………………….320 MHz
Lavender (Lavendula angustifolia)……..118 MHz
Myrrh (Commiphora myrrha)…………….105 MHz
Blue Chamomile (Matricaria recutita)….105 MHz
Juniper (Juniperus osteosperma)…………98 MHz
Aloes/Sandalwood (Santalum album)…..96 MHz
Angelica (Angelica archangelica)………….85 MHz
Peppermint (Mentha peperita)…………….78 MHz
In addition to raising your vibration, some essential oils (like frankincense and orange) have proven anti-carcinogenic activity. If you need more information on the best brand to purchase, contact me. I’ve been using them for years. You can spread them on the bottoms of your feet, diffuse them in your home, or just breathe them in. For additional information on vibrational frequencies and essential oils, read this article: Lavender and Its High Vibrational Frequency.
Choose high vibration foods – stop eating processed foods because they have little to no vibration. Instead eat a mainly plant-based diet of organic fruit and vegetables. Juicing is one of the very best things you can do to raise your vibration. See my articles about juicing – click this link to see the whole category. You can also Google “raw food recipes” to get plenty of great recipes and information on how to eat to raise your vibration.
Get outside and breathe fresh air – go to the beach or get into a forest or a park – being outside in nature raises your vibration quickly.
Release negative emotions – I constantly see people with cancer only dealing with the physical things – like nutrition, exercise, etc. It is JUST AS IMPORTANT – if not MORE IMPORTANT (sorry for the emphasis but I really want to get your attention) to deal with your emotional health. Most disease has an emotional basis. Get some counseling, work on that old baggage and get rid of it. I found a therapy called Emotional Freedom Technique extremely helpful to help release old, negative emotions. If you are excessively angry, lonely, fearful, depressed, bored, stressed, feeling guilty, grieving excessively, over-reacting to situations, looking after others and not yourself, isolated, full of regret, full of resentments, blaming others for how you feel, or procrastinating, your vibration will not be at its best. This aspect will be probably the most difficult part of your healing journey, but absolutely crucial. If you need help with this contact me. I will get you started in the right direction.
Practice forgiveness – even the Mayo Clinic has an article on their site about the value of forgiveness. When you are holding a grudge against someone you love or care for, you are not living fully in the present and this lowers your vibration. You don’t have to deny the other person’s responsibility for the hurt they caused you, but forgiving them helps you to make way for compassion, kindness and peace.
Find more joy in your day – let’s face it, if you are at stage IV your first priority needs to be YOU and your healing. Everything else takes a back seat because you and your healing are of paramount importance right now. Find what makes you happy. Don’t try to be all things to all people. If you want to sit down and read a book, do so. If you want to dance the night away, do it. If music floats your boat, put your favorite music on and listen whenever you wish. Quit your job if you need to. Get the stress out of your life. Healing often comes from strange places you never thought possible. Go in search of healers, whether that be a shaman, a Reiki master, a chiropractor – whoever you are drawn to (but don’t cast aside your medical doctors, I’m not saying that). Listen to your gut, it is very often right. Be proactive with your healing. Don’t carry everyone else’s load right now. Only you matter right now.
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One of the hardest things to deal with as a cancer patient is when metastasis occurs – the spread of the disease from one part of your body to another. Despite your best efforts. Despite the best efforts of your doctors. Here’s some help on dealing with it.
I’ve spent a lot of years reading, researching, getting everything in my hands that I could on this subject. I’m still no expert, but over the years I’ve talked to a lot of survivors, read a lot of books and in this post I will put the best information I’ve found thus far.
In his book “You Can Conquer Cancer” by Dr Ian Gawler (one of Australia’s most experienced and respected authorities on mind-body medicine and meditation), says this about meditation:
the single most powerful tool to aid recovery from disease
relieves physical tension
reactivates the immune system
allows development of emotional and mental poise
generates a positive attitude
leads to a heightened level of well-being.”
When in a state of stillness from meditation, your body has a better chance to return to its natural state of balance. When you practice meditation regularly, that state of balance persists with you throughout the day.
This Part is Really Important!
Dr Gawler states: “Meditation increases quality of life and quantity of life. People who do it feel better and live longer.” Dr Gawler recommends that if you’re looking for QUALITY of life, spend 10-20 minutes 3 times daily with your meditation. If you’re looking for QUANTITY of life, spend 60 minutes 3 times daily meditating.
I have a very good friend in Australia who was diagnosed with an incurable form of non-Hodgkins lymphoma. His doctors sent him home to die, telling him to get his affairs in order. He did that, but he also totally changed his life. He stopped smoking, quit his stressful job, started eating organic foods and juicing, and followed Ian Gawler’s suggestions. He meditated 3 hours total per day. That was 15 years ago and he’s in total remission from a supposedly incurable disease.
I have created, just for people who want to learn, a how-to-meditate course which I designed specifically for cancer patients. I’ve gotten lots of good feedback about the course, so give it a try. If you live in an area where meditation classes are either not available or you can’t get to them, this is a great solution.
Don’t Bury Toxic Emotions
According to Katrina Ellis in “Shattering the Cancer Myth“, the “most significant way of weakening your body’s immune system is through depressed emotions. Emotions of sadness, loss, abandonment, grief, fear, depression and hurt.” If YOU are going through cancer and can relate to this, I would strongly suggest you get some counseling. Deal with these emotions, please don’t bury them.
It Helps to Get Mad!
Dr Bernie Siegel in “Love, Medicine & Miracles” reports that “…psychologist Sandra Levy has shown that seriously ill breast cancer patients who expressed high levels of depression, anxiety, and hostility survived longer than those who showed little distress.” Aggressive patients apparently tend to have more killer T cells (part of your immune system) than docile patients! I found that very interesting.
Wisdom from the Dalai Lama
When you’re actively battling cancer and metastases, you MUST put yourself first. According to the Dalai Lama in his book “The Art of Happiness“, it helps to “frame any decision we face by asking ourselves ‘WILL IT BRING ME HAPPINESS?’ This underlying sense of moving toward happiness can have a very profound effect, it makes us more receptive, more open, to the joy of living.”
The Power of Prayer
Whether you pray for yourself or get your friends to pray for you (hopefully both), the power of prayer should not be underestimated. I’ll tell you a quick story. I once knew a woman who was involved in a rather serious car crash involving 3 cars. She was in the 3rd car, and the car ahead of her had been seriously damaged in both the front and the back. She began to pray for the young woman in the second car and kept it up until the ambulance came and they took the young woman to the hospital. My friend hadn’t been injured and went home and went about her life. Several weeks later, a young woman came to her door. She apologized for the intrusion and said that she got her address from the police report records. She said “I just want to thank you so much.” When my friend looked at her quizzically, she said “When we were involved in that accident, I think I left my body. I was near death, and I was hovering over the whole scene. I could see this amazing white light coming out of your car and enveloping me and keeping me safe and I realized you were praying for me. I could hear your words. I think you saved me.”
Pretty powerful stuff. Get involved in prayer circles with your friends. They’ll want to know how they can help you.
The Gift of Living in the Moment
A very helpful (and wise) friend once said to me, when I was stressing about whether or not I was going to survive breast cancer, “You know, Marnie, the best thing you can do for yourself is learn to live in the moment. Right now is all we have. Try not to worry about what’s in front of you or what’s behind you. Just be happy in this moment.”
That turned out to be the best advice anyone could have given me at the time. I took it on board and did my best (and still do) to just live in the moment. Because 90% of the time, the present moment – if you give yourself up to it and really take in everything – is pretty perfect.
I wish you much healing in your journey.
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About Marnie Clark
Hi I'm Marnie Clark, breast cancer survivor, and breast cancer coach. I have 20+ years of experience in natural medicine. In 2004/05 I battled breast cancer myself. You can see more about my journey on my page Breast Cancer Diary.
I've been healthy and recurrence-free since 2004 and in 2012 I became a Breast Cancer Coach because I became aware of the fact that whilst there is now a wealth of information on the Internet, much of it is confusing, conflicting, and sometimes just wrong!
Why should you work with me? Because:
(1) You don't want to go through this journey alone, feeling unempowered, frightened or just plain
clueless about what to do to help yourself.
(2) You will have someone working tirelessly on your behalf, putting together a healing plan for
you so you don’t have to lose your precious energy researching what food you should eat,
what supplements you should take, and what other things you can do that will give you the
best chances for survival. Instead you can spend that time resting, meditating, healing.
(3) You will learn what questions to ask your doctor (and have someone to turn to for the
questions they can't or won't answer).
(4) You will be armed with the tools and strategies you will need to get through the therapies you
choose so you can make your body hostile terrain for cancer.
You can also “like” me on Facebook (Marnie Clark, Breast Health Coach) to get my inspirational snippets, news and updates. I promise to do my utmost to keep you informed and empowered on your healing journey… and beyond.