You Create Your Life

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YOU CREATE YOUR LIFE

I am reading a fabulous book at the moment – “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen R Covey.  It’s ultra inspiring and teaches you how YOU create your life.

Stephen R Covey is one of my mentors and I very much appreciate his ability to motivate and inspire us with his well-chosen words of wisdom.

I was particularly inspired today by Covey’s suggestion that we develop a personal mission statement, philosophy or creed and the reason I appreciated it so much is that we often don’t do this.  To clarify your goals for your life – to set them down in writing and then to focus on them and live by them is one of the most empowering things you can do.

I would challenge you – on this Easter weekend – to create your own personal mission statement.  The following mission statement is an excerpt from Stephen Covey’s book, written from a female standpoint:

  • “I will seek to balance career and family as best I can since both are important to me.
  • My home will be a place where I and my family, friends, and guests find joy, comfort, peace, and happiness.  Still I will seek to create a clean and orderly environment, yet livable and comfortable.  I will exercise wisdom in what we choose to eat, read, see, and do at home.  I especially want to teach my children to love, to learn, and to laugh – and to work and develop their unique talents.
  • I value the rights, freedoms, and responsibilities of our democratic society.  I will be a concerned and informed citizen, involved in the political process to ensure my voice is heard and my vote is counted.
  • I will be a self-starting individual who exercises initiative in accomplishing my life’s goals.  I will act on situations and opportunities, rather than to be acted upon.
  • I will always try to keep myself free from addictive and destructive habits.  I will develop habits that free me from old labels and limits and expand my capabilities and choices.
  • My money will be my servant, not my master.  I will seek financial independence over time.  My wants will be subject to my needs and my means.  Except for long-term home and car loans, I will seek to keep myself free from consumer debt.  I will spend less than I earn and regularly save or invest part of my income.
  • Moreover, I will use what money and talents I have to make life more enjoyable for others through service and charitable giving.”

Isn’t that great?  I know I usually write an article about something related to breast cancer, but this blog is all about empowering yourself and I found this mission statement to be wonderfully empowering.  I wish to add one more paragraph to the above:

  • I will seek and and be worthy of divine assistance, maintain a positive attitude, keep a sense of humor, and if I find that I have regrets and emotional baggage, I will do everything within my power to free myself from their chains so that I can be the very best person I am capable of being.

Have a fabulous Easter weekend. 

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The Power of Prayer When You Have Cancer

 

The Power of Prayer When You Have Cancer

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The Power of Prayer When You Have Cancer

I’ve never particularly religious person, but I have always believed in prayer.  As a small child, I used to pray that I wouldn’t have bad dreams, because they scared me.

As I’ve grown older, I’ve turned to prayer more frequently and especially when I was going through breast cancer.

How Prayer Assisted Me

I had an interesting thing happen to me in the early stages of diagnosis and surgery.  I was contemplating going into the hospital for my lumpectomy surgery and, never having been in the hospital for anything other than childbirth, I was pretty nervous about it.  I decided it might be a good idea to ask my friends to pray for me in the hour prior to the scheduled surgery.  I sent out an email to friends across the world, knowing that they would want to help however they could.

On the morning of my surgery, as my husband and my best friend kept me company in the hospital room to which I’d been assigned, I was calm and grounded, I did some yoga while I waited, and then I almost felt uplifted, surrounded by love.  It was really quite amazing and still brings tears to my eyes as I remember it.  I looked at the clock and realized it was the time I’d asked my friends to pray for me.  My surgery went smoothly and I healed quickly.

If you are going through cancer, please know that you have this wonderful resource available to you and your friends, regardless of their religious feelings, will most likely be glad to help you this way.  Don’t be shy to ask them for their prayers.

A Beautiful Quote

When I was going through breast cancer, I did a lot of soul searching and one of the books that really helped me was Iyanla Vanzant’s “One Day My Soul Just Opened Up”.  It’s a beautifully written book, she is so wise, and she had this to say about prayer:

“The language of prayer, whether it is done in supplication (asking for something) or affirmation (declaring that something is already done) helps to bring the mental, physical and emotional bodies into alignment.  These bodies, commonly referred to as mind, body and spirit, ignite the energy of the Divine when they are in alignment… This energy is within us… What we pray for, we already have, but in most cases we are not aware of it… When we pray, we are asking for the intervention of Spirit on our behalf or on behalf of someone else.  Spiritual intervention is always a divine win-win situation that will unfold in a divine manner according to divine will.”

I certainly believe this to be true.  One interesting thing I’ve learned about prayer is that you sometimes need to give up any preconceived notions about how you think things ought to pan out and just be open to what does occur.  Let go of the process and just know that the infinite wisdom of the Divine will manifest and the power of miracles will unfold a perfect solution and healing for everyone involved.

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Have You Read “The Biology of Belief” Yet? (You Should!)

reading a bookI have just finished re-reading “The Biology of Belief” by Dr Bruce Lipton, who was just in Loveland, Colorado last month at a speaking engagement.  Alas, too far away for me to get there.

I owe a huge debt of gratitude to Dr Lipton for this book and I’ll tell you why.

When I was going through breast cancer in 2004, the thing I struggled with the most (my elephant in the room) was my inherited genes from my mother and grandmother, who both died from breast cancer.

There were times when I thought, “What’s the use of doing chemotherapy if I am just going to die from this anyway?”

Being a natural therapist, I was aware of how powerful the mind is and I knew what a self-limiting belief this was and that it wasn’t doing me ANY good at all.

A Friend to the Rescue

About that time, I shared that worry with a new friend of mine, another woman going through breast cancer.  She invited me to her house to collect a video tape she’d received from somewhere, so on one rainy day I drove over and met her and she gave me the video to watch.

It was Dr Bruce Lipton giving a talk entitled “The Biology of Belief” about how OUR GENES ARE NOT OUR DESTINY.

That video is now available on You Tube and you can access it here .  It’s an hour long so be patient but please do watch it – it’s very powerful and will change the way you think about genes.

I felt totally liberated when I watched that video, and I began to change my thoughts to more positive, nurturing beliefs.

There Is More In The Book

Once you’ve watched the video, you still owe it to yourself to read the book.  Dr Lipton mentions lots of interesting things in the book that the video doesn’t cover.

I especially loved the section where he discusses the genes that supposedly cause breast cancer, BRCA1 and BRCA2.  Dr Lipton says that 95% of breast cancers are NOT due to inherited genes, but to malignancies derived from environmentally induced “epigenetic alterations” (not due to genes).

I really enjoyed the section on prescription drugs, “Buying the Pharm”.  Dr Lipton tells us that pharmaceutical drugs are responsible for more than 300,000 deaths per year.  Did you know that?  Definitely read that section of the book.  It should be required reading for all medical students.

Dr Lipton states “Using prescription drugs to silence a body’s symptoms enables us to ignore personal involvement we may have with the onset of those symptoms.  The overuse of prescription drugs provides a vacation from personal responsibility.”  Confronting, I know.

Another eye opener – did you know that drug companies are studying patients who respond to sugar pills (placebos) with the goal of eliminating them from early clinical trials?  It apparently disturbs pharmaceutical companies that in most of their clinical trials the placebos (the “fake” drugs) prove to be as effective as their “engineered chemical cocktails.”

Which just demonstrates to me that we as humans are susceptible to the healing power of “something” you feel is going to help you.  Makes me think of leeches, blood-letting, rattlesnake oil…

Placebo vs Nocebo Effect

In the book, Dr Lipton discusses the interesting difference between the placebo effect, when the mind, through positive suggestions improves something injured or diseased in the body, and the nocebo effect, when the same mind is engaged in negative suggestions that can damage health.

How many of us have heard of the patient who walked into his doctor’s office, is told that he only has 8 weeks to live and 8 weeks later he promptly gives up the ghost?  That’s the nocebo effect in action.

I was telling you just the other day of a friend of mine who was told he only had a few months to live, to go home and get his affairs in order, but he chose not to accept that.  He went in search of holistic medicine and he’s still here with us 16 years later.  That’s the placebo effect working (along with a whole bunch of other things!).

Finally, I have found Dr David Hamilton’s wonderful YouTube video called How Your Mind Can Heal Your Body.  And he has a wonderful Scottish accent.  Enjoy (it’s only 6 minutes long).

I think I’m in love…

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Favorite Inspirational Quote #7

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Today’s favorite inspirational quote comes from Dr Bernie Siegel in “Love, Medicine & Miracles” and the subject is the importance of peace of mind.

“Getting well isn’t the main objective.  That can set you up for failure.  If you set a physical goal, then you may fail, but if you make peace of mind your goal, you can achieve it.  My message is peace of mind, not curing cancer, blindness, or paraplegia.  In achieving peace of mind, cancer may be healed, sight may be restored, and paralysis may disappear.  All of these things may occur through peace of mind, which creates a healing environment in the body.”

When you consider the research being done about the body-mind connection, how stress often plays a huge role in the development of disease, and how often we are stressed these days, Dr Siegel’s comment makes a lot of sense.

Check out my free downloadable Guided Meditation if you need help with stress.

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Favorite Inspirational Quote #6

Today’s favorite inspirational quote comes from Dr Bernie Siegel, whose knowledge and understanding of the capacity for humans to heal is truly remarkable.

In “Healers on Healing” Dr Siegel prefaces the comment below about telling his patients of the importance of living as if they were going to die at any moment.

I learned to live this way after my breast cancer diagnosis, and it seemed as important to me then as it does now, 8 years later.  Once you’ve had cancer and faced your own mortality, the things that used to weigh you down don’t seem to matter so much anymore.

I learned that every single day is a treasured gift and I began looking for that special moment within each day (I call it my “TSM” – today’s special moment) and I keep a journal of them.  I digress.

Favorite Inspirational Quote #6

Dr Siegel states: “Of course, there is always grief when we lose a loved one.  But we must learn to take that pain and to love others with it.  Consider those who have lived ninety, ninety-five, or one hundred years.  They may have lost their spouses, their children, and many other loved ones.  Yet after such terrible losses, people find the strength to go on, because they learn to love others.  We cannot outlive everyone we love if we choose to keep loving new people.  This is what survivors do: They roll the love on continuously.  Thus healing, like love, becomes a never-ending process.”

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Favorite Inspirational Quote #5

Today’s quote comes from Michael Lerner, Ph.D. in the book, Breast Cancer – Beyond Convention, The World’s Foremost Authorities on Complementary and Alternative Medicine Offer Advice on Healing.

“…if you are fortunate, a cancer diagnosis can be a teachable moment in your life.  That moment can be a time when, if you are able to open up to the possibilities, the creative powers within you are uniquely ready to come to the surface to assist you in facing both the tremendous challenges and the possibilities of living through this very difficult experience.”

I found this to be an amazing book, full of thought-provoking and life-altering material.  If you’d like a copy of it, you can click on the link to order it.

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