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Creating Positive Affirmations That Work

 

Creating Positive Affirmations That Work
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Creating Positive Affirmations That Work

Yesterday I discussed how to bring positive thinking into your life and part of doing that is being able to put together positive affirmations that will work.

Positive affirmations are one of the most important elements of acquiring a positive frame of mind.  To affirm means “make firm”.  An affirmation is a strong, positive statement that something is already so.  Why is this important?

Because of that inner dialogue that runs through our minds – if it’s continually negative it can drag you down into a negative spiral.  Do you think marathon runners are continually thinking self-defeating thoughts like “I’ll never be able to finish this race!”  or “I’m so damn tired, I’m never going to get to the finish line!”  I can assure you they are not thinking this, but if they are, they are most likely not going to win that race.

Fighting cancer can be a lot like running a marathon.  That’s why I’m reinforcing the power of having a positive attitude.  There are some good ways of creating positive affirmations and some really unhelpful ways.  It is a powerful technique, so let’s get it right because it is SO worth doing.

“The practice of engaging in affirmations allows us to begin replacing some of our stale, worn out, or negative mind chatter with more positive ideas and concepts.”  – Shakti Gawain in “Creative Visualization“.

Affirmations can be done silently, spoken out loud, written down (I like them on the dashboard of the car!), or even sung or chanted.  And they are best used whenever one of those old, negative thoughts enters your head.

The Best Way to Create Positive Affirmations

  • Always phrase them in the present tense, not in the future – create your desire as if it already exists.  Not “I will be healthy by the end of this year”, but “I am glowingly healthy, whole and complete in myself”.  The words “I Am” are very powerful.
  • Always phrase affirmations in the most positive way you can by stating what you DO want, not what you don’t want.  Not “I no longer have cancer in my body”, rather “I am vibrantly healthy and happy to be alive”.  (The reason for this is that your mind doesn’t acknowledge negatives like “no longer” – it just hears “cancer in my body”.  Repeat those two statements and see which one feels better in your body – I think you’ll agree the second one is much more powerful)
  • Short and simple affirmations are more effective.  Long, wordy affirmations lose their emotional impact and can be hard to remember.
  • Choose the words that feel right for you – what works for one may not work for another.
  • You are creating something new and fresh – so be aware that you may have some inner resistance at first.  Keep at it!  Try to suspend your doubts and hesitations.

Positive affirmations are powerful when used in combination with visualizing or imagery.  Some people who are actively battling cancer (especially children – they are good at this) like to imagine what their cancer cells look like and then create a strong, powerful enemy (their immune system) easily overcoming the cancer cells.  I would suggest even drawing a picture – it doesn’t matter if you aren’t artistic – your picture comes from you and can be very powerful.

My favorite affirmation is one I use whenever anxiety hits:  I AM SUPREMELY CALM.  Paired with a deep breath it works every time.

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10 Steps to a Positive Attitude

 

10 Steps to a Positive Attitude

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10 Steps to a Positive Attitude

As a cancer patient, having a positive attitude is almost as important as the various therapies you undergo.  And sometimes, it’s darned hard to achieve.  But it’s the real key to optimal health and beating cancer.

I am drawing heavily from one of my favorite books – given to me by a friend shortly after my diagnosis.  It’s entitled “Shattering the Cancer Myth” by Katrina Ellis, a cancer survivor and natural therapist.

Ms Ellis’s book helped me so much – one eye-opening statement that she makes in the book is “When we are happy and optimistic, our immune system functions much better… Blocking negative emotions isn’t the answer to preventing illness and cancer.  Inhibiting emotions will not make them go away, it simply drives them into more subtle and usually more destructive avenues of expression later.”  Here are her recommendations on achieving a positive attitude:

  1. Become an Optimist – be aware of your every day dialogue and conversations with others.  Try to go a whole day without saying something negative or derogatory.  Also be aware of internal dialogues with yourself.
  2. Be Aware of Your Internal Self-Talk – guard against negativity by using affirmations (see #3)
  3. Use Positive Affirmations and Phrases Daily – creating positive affirmations is not as easy as you think.  You must use no negative language.  More on this tomorrow!
  4. Set Positive Short Term & Long Term Goals – achieving goals enables you to feel better about who you are.  Use positive language, be specific, state your goals in the present tense or as if you have already achieved them.
  5. Practice Creative Imagery – visualize your goals being attained – much like world-class athletes will visualize themselves running the race and winning before they even get to the start line.  See my post Using Visualization To Heal Yourself.
  6. Laugh Heartily & Often  – laughter releases endorphins and they help you feel better!
  7. Surround Yourself With Positive People – negative, pessimistic people will only bring you down.  Seek out people who have a good, caring, attitude!
  8. Keep the Playfulness & Joy In Your Life – keeping a playful attitude helps to maintain a positive attitude.  Watch children and puppies for clues!
  9. Reward Yourself with Treats – nothing wrong with this, especially when you have achieved a goal.  It doesn’t need to be expensive or lavish, just something you love.
  10. Take Time Out For Yourself – do this every day, even when you think you can’t.  It doesn’t have to be a huge amount of time, just something that is solely for you.

I send my love to everyone taking this journey right now. If you would like my help with getting through breast cancer in an inspiring and ultra-healthy way, please sign up for my free e-newsletters on the right, or “like” me on Facebook (MarnieClark.com) and I’ll do my utmost to keep you informed and empowered on your healing journey… and beyond.  

Favorite Inspirational Quote #3

 

Favorite Inspirational Quote 3
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Favorite Inspirational Quote #3

Today’s quote comes from Carolyn Myss in her book “Why People Don’t Heal and How They Can“.  The subject is on using visualization methods to help heal yourself and she says this about developing will power:

“Doing a thirty-minute visualization once or twice a day and then returning to fear-filled thoughts the rest of the day negates the influence of your positive work.  Keeping your focus in a positive direction takes discipline, and that level of discipline requires practice… you need to achieve a working relationship with your inner resources to be able to quickly eclipse a negative thought with a positive one and feel the positive energy that results.”

I found this book to be an amazing resource when I was healing from breast cancer – I hope it will help you too!

I send my love to everyone taking this journey right now. If you would like my help with getting through breast cancer in an inspiring and ultra-healthy way, please sign up for my free e-newsletters on the right, or “like” me on Facebook (MarnieClark.com) and I’ll do my utmost to keep you informed and empowered on your healing journey… and beyond.